======================================================= Simply Speaking...Selling Yourself & Your Ideas E-Zine Volume 9, April, 2006 Published by Lenny Laskowski Copyright LJL Seminars(tm), 2006 All Rights Reserved ------------------------------------------------------- LJL Seminars (tm) (203)375-5617 or Toll Free 1-800-606-4855 Fax: (800) 743-3314 www.ljlseminars.com ------------------------------------------------------- This E-Zine meets the requirements of the "Can Spam Act of 2003" (S.877), passed by President Bush on December 16, 2003 ------------------------------------------------------- NOTE: You are receiving this E-Zine because you have subscribed via our website or by email. If you did not subscribe, removal instructions can be found at the end of this newsletter. ================================================================= ------------- Lenny's Tip of the Month ------------------ Vizualization: Self-Talk by Lenny Laskowski © 2006 LJL Seminars "10 Days to More Confident Public Speaking" (Chapter 8 - page 162) http://www.ljlseminars.com ----------------------------------------------------------------- One of the most effective techniques that I use myself and teach clients in my seminars, workshops, and especially private coaching is visualization. Visualization is strongly tied to your own "self-talk." Self-talk is the conversation you have with yourself either in your head or out loud. If your self-talk is negative, destructive, or even invalid, your subconscious automatically accepts what you tell it. It doesn't say, "Oh, that was inappropriate, you don't want that. Your mind records what you tell it, good or bad. It is imperative that you contyrol your self-talk or it will control you. If you continue to have negative thoughts about yourself, you will sabatoge any potential you have as a public speaker. Instead use positive self-talk: I can do this. When you start to visualize yourself as a success, you will succeed. The self-talk concept is the ability to relate or tie together your real performance as a speaker with your self-image as a speaker. This also relates directly back to your beliefs regarding speaking anxiety. Remember, it starts with what you call it and what you believe, right or wrong. Consider the pattern of a speaker who is not confident with his or her speaking ability. This speaker goes into the situation totally unprepared, hoping it will be different, expecting the worst. And when you expect the worst, that's exactly what happens. Next things you know, you hear yourself saying, "See, I told you you would fail." Let's take a look at a different approach. Imagine you said to yourself, I am looking forward to this presentation because I know I put a lot of time and effort into it and I will succeed because I am prepared! You would be amazed how this thinking creats postitive, confident results. Visualize yourself walking to the podium, stage, or lectern with confidence. The audience is listening to every word you are saying, glued to your next comment, and raising their hands because they want to hear more and ask interesting thought-provoking questions. If you start visualizing yourself as a success, over time you will see an improvement in your speaking. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ ======================================================================= WORKSHOP / SEMINARS (15th Anniversary Rates) - LJL SEMINARS (tm) ======================================================================= * Book a keynote or seminar with us today and we will waive our travel costs * ----------------------------------------------------------------------- - LJL Seminars (tm) offers several seminars which can help you improve your speaking and presentation skills. - In celebration of our 15th Anniversary, we are offering a 25% savings on ALL of our in-house programs for 2006. 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